Being Authentic To Yourself is A Revolutionary Act

ONE OF THE GREATEST things we can let go of is our desire to  fit in, belong & conform.. Our desire to fit in or belong in this societal culture is what causes us to lose ourselves.. we forget who we are.. we resist our own life force.. we lose our creativity, our spark, our fire, we lose our embody excitement & unconditional love when we give it to others in order to feel like we belong..

Nobody is perfect, yet almost every one tries to act as though they "have it together".. This neurotic false pretenses is what divides us from each other & ourselves..

If we could see inside each other's muds & realize that we are all full of similar anxieties, insecurities, compulsions, sadness, false beliefs, & just plain ol' bizarre thoughts - we would awaken to the fact that our ego is a neurotic construct enslaved within a neurotic failure & that culture is more than a collectivized consensus about what sort of neurotic behaviours are acceptable..

The whole silly charade would rapidly dissolve in a global cuddle-puddle of laughter & tears..

If you want this in your own life, it starts with you accepting yourself, embracing your own shadow self, with all the things in yourself that you've denied & held back.. your 'flaws' & personal challenges are the most interesting, endearing & relatable thing about you in an otherwise homogenized & fake society..

In an age of deceit & emotional disconnection, being authentic to yourself is a revolutionary act..

Remember - to transform the world, we must begin with ourselves & what is important in beginning with ourselves is the intention.. the intention must be to understand ourselves & not to leave it to others to transform us..
Be the first to initiate the change or bring about a modified change through revolution, either of the left or the right..

It is important to understand that this is our responsibility.. Remember, If you can't change  yourself, how could you possibly change anyone else..

Embrace Uncertainty

Vick was doing okay on his corporate job.. It was enough to make a day to day living together with his live-in partner Christy..

Because they were both young, Vick held on to his corporate job.. Even if what he loves to do is writing by being an entrepreneur/intrapreneur.. He has no opportunity to write at all on his job.. He can’t do what he loves except on rare moments..

What he wants to be is a freelance writer & an entrepreneur/intrapreneur.. And because Vick is still occupied with his job, he’s trapped within his situation..

He wanted to try freelance writing on the side while he’s still working on his full-time job.. But it’s becoming too tiring for him.. He also has to maintain the apartment that they’re living at..

Thankfully, after 4 months, Vick was accepted on a minimum paying job in a national newspaper/magazine..

“It’s something..” Vick thought.. It’s not ideal, but at least, they had some funds to live by day by day..

The thought of quitting his corporate job is becoming more vivid..

But as it happens to the best of us, uncertainty crept up his mind & stopped him in his tracks..

But you know, there’s a way to use uncertainty to our advantage.. And use it as a strength, not as a weakness..

Rewire your mind about these 4 things to embrace uncertainty..

🎭 Rewire your mind about risks..

We are afraid of something we don’t know.. We are afraid of discomfort.. But with discomfort comes growth..

Take your time & learn how to take calculated risks.. And learn to take baby steps towards your learning zone or growth zone.. Learn how to venture outside your comfort zone..

If you take time analyzing the situations, you’ll find that the benefits far outweigh the costs..

The lessons you can take from each experience is worth the discomfort & fear you faced..

🎭 Affirmations to help you rewire your mind about risks..

👉 I take calculated risks & I enjoy growing..

👉 I grow because I venture outside of my comfort zone..

👉 I grow because I face my fear..

👉 I love going out of my way to actually live life & take risks..

👉 I make it a habit to do something unfamiliar each day..

👉 Rewire your mind about the idea of imperfection..

👉 We tend to hide behind the idea of perfection..

But you’ll be able to see that when you reveal yourself behind the curtains of perfection..

When you reveal yourself as an imperfect human being, you’ll be able to see the beauty within..

The reality, the realness, the ‘true self’.. That’s who you are.. And that’s what you should be..

Don’t try to be anyone else but yourself..

🎭 Affirmations to help you rewire your mind about the idea of imperfection:

I love myself & this is who I am, I love me for me..

I love myself & I see myself as beautiful..

I am as real as I can & I am beautiful..

I love myself because I am real & beautiful..

My beauty shines because I am real & unique..

🎭 Rewire your mind about the approval of others..

We all want others’ approval.. We want to be loved & accepted.. But growth means accepting yourself first..

To see yourself for what you’re really worth.. That’s the secret ingredient of self-growth & self-love..
Well, it’s not really a secret but it’s easier said than done..

👉 To help you with this, you can start a self-love journal.. Just jot down everything you love about yourself.. Jot down your accomplishments for the day, your past achievements, etc..

👉 Take note of everything you did right.. Take note of everything you love about yourself.. Take note of what other people love about you..

👉 What are the compliments you receive most of the time..?

👉 You should be a standalone player.. You should be able to take on the world alone.. Have that strength.. And uncertainty will have nothing against you..

🎭 Affirmations to rewire your mind about the approval of others:

👉 I grow in self-love every day..

👉 I take note of every great thing about myself..

👉 I know what I am capable of..
And I am capable of great things..

👉 I grow in self-confidence day by day..

👉 Every day in every way, I’m getting better as a person..

🎭 Rewire your mind about yourself..

Almost the same as the two points above..

What I simply want to say is that you should know that you are enough as you are..

You don’t need anything else.. You don’t need anyone else.. You can do it.. You are equipped..

And once you know that..

You’ll be on your path to growth..

You’ll have the courage to pursue what you want to pursue..

Facing your fear will be easier..

And growth will become your game..

🎭 Affirmations to rewire your mind about yourself:

👉 I am enough, I love myself..

👉 I know I am equipped with everything, I can do what I love to do..

👉 I can do everything I put my heart & mind to..

👉 I am growing every day because I love myself..

👉 I embrace uncertainty  because that’s growth..

Like Vick, once you’re thinking about taking the leap.. Don’t hesitate.. Know that you’re always guided by that tingling feeling of ‘I should be doing that, & not this..’

Trust your gut..

Basically, you can’t expect change to happen if you don’t change anything..

While it can be scary.. It’s growth..
And that’s what you want as a person, to grow..

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What is Your Million Dollar Question?

WHAT IS YOUR MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION..?

There is a secret behind it..! All successful figures had asked the right question & they actually unlock their path to massive achievement in life.. For example..

Why does the apple fall from the tree..? Sir Isaac Newton found the law of gravitation..

How can we fly..? The Wright brothers invented the first flying plane..

How can we communicate with great distance..? Sir Alexander Graham Bell invented telephone..

The list goes on and on..

Ok now let me ask you, if asking a question is so powerful, then why do almost everybody afraid to ask question..?

Based on my own experience I would say the sad truth is we are all victim to the current education system.. Let me explain -

In school they provide answers.. So it makes asking questions look stupid on us as the answer is already in the book..
And fundamentally we are afraid to ask questions as it makes us look stupid..

But wait..! Asking a question is not actually stupid, it's smart, it empowers us to find a solution..!

To me asking question is like building a bridge between us & our dream..! We should always ask questions, even a ridiculous one..
Once we ask the right question we are one step closer towards our dream..!

So now, how does this work for me..?

Remember your notebook..?

Write down your question when it appears in your mind.. Here are some question example:

What makes me happy..?

What makes me come alive..?

How can I impact the world positively..?

Why should I find more source of income..?

How can I attract more wealth..?

What should I do to achieve that..?

Where can I find resources to achieve it..?

When is the correct timing for me to do it..?

Whom should I seek advice from..?

Who had accomplished what I want in life..?

Can you see that..? When you pen down your question you must be curious..
And curiosity makes us  look for the answer & you activate your brain to seek a solution.. The more solution you have the clearer the path & we are closer to our goal..
And remember to write down each solution you found in your notebook..! So that when you refer to it you feel the positivity in you & you will stay motivated to your goals..!

So don't be afraid to go after your dream even if you are lack of knowledge & resources..!

Remember - As the quote says -

"Take the first step in faith.. We don't need to see the whole staircase, we just need to take the first step.."~Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.~

Stay tune for the next follow up series in a few days time on "The Million Dollar Question"..

To your continuing success..!
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To The One who is struggling

TO THE ONE Who Is Struggling: I See You..

Stop Acting Like Mental Illness Is Cute & Trendy - It’s Literally The Opposite..

You wake up, disheveled.. You feel as you have been through a torrential rainstorm with the magnitude of a hurricane.. Your chest feels heavy & your heart is pounding out of your chest.. There is no doubt that life has kicked you down lately, but somehow, you continue to wake up & do your best to function..

Your friends & family think you’re being a drama actor/actress.. The truth of the matter is, though, they don’t seem to understand mental illness & the mind games that have the utmost potential of revenging your mind & heart..

Be patient with them..

They will understand eventually, especially if you make the decision to speak up & make sure your trials are heard.. I know it will be hard to voice them, & it will take the courage of a lion, but I believe in you..

I know mental illness is stigmatized in this society.. The world tells us that we are supposed to grab life by the horns & keep going because that’s what’s normal..

However, I personally beg to disagree..

No one is normal.. We will all created with a one-of a-kind personality & work ethic.. Sometimes, though, even our most unique & special traits can fail us, no matter how hard we try, even if we avoid it like the plague.. It’s not our fault, though..

It is the devil on our shoulder attempting to do his job & ruin everything that is good..

We have to find a way to bury the devil’s face in his own misery before we can overcome our feelings of sadness, emptiness, & failure.. To some, it may seem as simple as reciting the alphabet, but for someone who is struggling, this can become akin to trying to contact the President..

We all understand that there are many people who internalize their feelings.. Perhaps they have buried their negative feelings for so long that they struggle to reach the surface.. What they don’t understand is that this is the worst thing you can do for yourself..

The longer something is buried, the more likely it will explode once released & could result in negative consequences..

You are not weak, my dear..

If you need help, seek it.. If you need to talk about something, blurt it out to someone who cares..
I promise that you’re not alone..

The whole world sees struggle.. We all want instant answers & are frustrated when they don’t appear at our fingertips..

However, when you actively seek solutions to your troubles, it is then that you can begin on your road to healing.. It is when you’ll see the sunshine again.. It’s when you will not be afraid to dance in the rain..

Maybe you’ll even find the courage to embrace your scars for the positive lessons that they have taught you..
Maybe one day you will give thanks to your unrelenting strength & fiery spirit..

Until then, though, remember & understand that life is a process..
And, processes take time.. Until then, I will be on the sidelines cheering for you to make it through the best way you know how..

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When I Called Myself God

WHEN I CALLED myself God..

The Nobel awardees in physics, beyond doubt, proved that the physical world is one big ocean of energy that materializes & dematerializes in a split second, over & over again..
Nothing is solid..
This is the world of quantum physics..

They proved that thoughts are responsible for holding this ever changing energy field together in the form & shape of the objects we know..

So why do we see a person, instead of flashing clusters of energy..?

Think of a film roll.. A film is a collection of about 24 frames per second.. Each frame is separated from the other by a small space.. Compared to the speed these frames change with, our eyes are tricked & see them as a continual film..

Think about television.. The cathode tube is a simple tube with a bunch of electrons hitting the screen in a certain way, making an illusion of shape & movement..

🏒 Anyway, this is how all objects are made..

We have five physical senses (sight, hearing, touch, smell & taste).. Each of these senses has a specific range (for an example, a dog hears a different range of sound than people do; snakes see a different spectrum of light than us, & so on)..

In other words, our senses perceive energy from a certain fixed point of view & that’s how they create images & form our perception..

But that’s neither exact nor complete.. That’s just an interpretation..

All our interpretations are based exclusively on our “inner map” of reality, but not the real truth..
Our “map” is the result of the collective experience of our personal lives..

Everything is energy & we control it with the power of our thoughts..
Our thoughts are associated with this invisible energy  & they determine what form it will take.. They can literally change the universe “particle after particle”, creating our 3D life..

Look around you..

Everything you see in our physical world began as an idea which kept growing until it materialized into a physical object through a series of steps..

You literally turn into your most frequent thoughts..

Your life has become what you imagined & believed in..

The world is literally your mirror, allows you to experience everything you believe to be the truth in this 3D plane.. until you change it..

Quantum physics tells us that the world is not a constant as it may appear to be.. Instead, it is a place of a constant motion which our individual & collective thoughts keep building, tearing down, & rebuilding.. It’s a perpetuum mobile..

What we believe to be true is actually an illusion, almost magic..

Fortunately, we started to expose the illusion & most importantly, we are learning how to change it..

Here’s a simple explanation..

What are the components of our body..?

The human body is comprised of nine systems, including the circulatory, digestive, endocrine, muscular, nervous, reproductive, respiratory, skeletal & urinary system..

🕹️ What makes these systems..? 👉 Tissues & organs..

🕹️ What are tissues & organs made of..? 👉 Cells..

🕹️ What makes the cells..? 👉Molecules..

🕹️ What makes a molecule..? 👉 Atoms..

🕹️ What makes an atom..? 👉 Sub-atomic particles..

🕹️ What makes a subatomic particle..? 👉 Energy..!

We are just an energy light in its most beautiful & intelligent configuration.. An energy which is constantly changing under the surface & all of that it’s controlled by our powerful mind..

You are one big & powerful human being..

If you could see under a strong electronic microscope & do other experiments on it, you would see that you are made up of clusters of forever changing energy in the shape of electrons, neutrons, photons & other sub-atomic particles..

So is everything else around you.. Quantum physics tells us that the act of observing the object is the one that causes the object to be there..

The object does not exist independently of its observer..! So, as you can see, during observation, your attention is focused on something & your intention literally creates that thing..

That is scientifically proven..

Your world is consisted of soul, mind & body..

Each of these three has a function that is unique.. What you can see with your own eyes & experience with your own body is the physical world, which we call the body.. The body is an effect created by a cause..

That cause is called thought..

The body cannot produce.. It can only experience & be experienced.. it’s a unique ability..
On the other hand, the thought cannot experience.. it can make, create & interpret.. It needs a world of relativity (the physical world, body) to be experienced..

The soul is everything, the one that gives life thought & body..

The body has no power to create, although it gives the illusion that it does.. This illusion is the reason behind so many frustrations.. The body is a pure effect & has no power to cause or create..

The key is to use this information to see the Universe in a different way than we see it now so that we can manifest what we really want..

So, remember - when I call myself God, I am not talking about my personal self.. I am talking about the expression of the God self that rests inside of me..
The verb 'energy'.. not the noun - Once you think God is a noun, person, place, or thing, you separate yourself from it & immediately become a limited being.. That's what separates the believers (religious) from the knowers  (spiritual)..